Naked, Lit by Firelight, and Asleep by Midnight
How I Reset My Brain for Pleasure—and You Can Too
by Inara – flow state nerd, courtesan, and creator of evenings that restore body and soul
We begin the night skin-to-skin or idea-to-idea. With conversation that crackles like the firelight beside us. With breath that deepens. With a softness that spreads, because the night isn’t trying to impress—it’s trying to connect.
That’s the secret.
The antidote to addiction isn’t discipline. It’s connection.
And connection comes in many forms: a held gaze, a shared story, a playful tease, or simply feeling your nervous system sigh in the presence of another.
So that’s what I offer: evenings designed to bring us back.
To our senses.
To each other.
To the rhythm of real pleasure—unrushed, unperformed, and deeply satisfying.
✨ A Reset for the Pleasure-Seeking Brain
You wouldn’t know it from the way I unwind now, but I used to be that girl still scrolling at 2am. Searching for one more message. One more high. One more reason to stay awake instead of sinking into myself.
I’m a dopamine-driven creature (aren’t we all?). But what I’ve learned—through study, experience, and dozens of delicious nights—is this:
Dopamine gets us to the moment.
But oxytocin and serotonin help us stay in it and be satisfied in it.
So I started building my evenings around those hormones - oxytocin (connection & bonding) and serotonin (satisfaction and building).
🕯️ What It Looks Like
Sometimes, it’s a bath before bed.
Sometimes it’s mint tea and music while we talk about the kind of pleasure that doesn’t need to last forever to mean something.
Sometimes we read poetry out loud.
Sometimes we make up our own.
But always we connect, see each other, be present to each other.
We eat slowly. We laugh easily.
And eventually, we drift—toward stillness, toward touch, toward sleep.
Or toward something else entirely. No pressure. Only presence.
There’s always space for the humanness of the moment.
There’s always warmth.
There’s always the option to be held—physically, emotionally, or not at all.
You don’t need to know what kind of night you want.
We’ll find it together.
💡 Why This Works
Your body has its own language for safety and pleasure.
Most people override it.
I help you listen to it.
There’s science behind it, yes (I’m a total nerd for this stuff). Cold plunges. Mitochondrial resets. Group flow states. Attachment repair through oxytocin. All of it’s part of what I weave in… softly. Sensually. Without ever making you feel like you’re doing homework.
This isn’t wellness with a capital W.
This is permission.
This is practice.
This is play.
💌 Curious?
If your system’s been asking for something different—something slower, deeper, smarter than dopamine-chasing highs—I might be the right kind of reset.
Sometimes these nights include touch.
Sometimes they include sleep.
Sometimes they include firelight and nothing else.
But always, they include you.
Fully. Just as you are. No mask. No hustle. Just presence.
If that sounds like the kind of connection you’ve been craving, I’d love to hear from you.