If this is you

When a man comes to me struggling with this, he usually doesn't want to talk about it with the people in his life. He may have talked to his doctor, but most likely, by the time he comes to me, it's been a problem for a while. He's starting to feel like less of a man because of it.

He believes he is on a downhill slide, that his aging (or whatever else he thinks has gotten in the way) is his fault, and that there's nothing he can do about it. Or he's afraid there's nothing he can do about it.

What I see

I have a huge variety of experience, so I can help you understand where you actually are on the spectrum, not just where you think you are compared to the porn star you watch. I can help you normalize healthy sexuality and orgasms, and help you reclaim your masculinity, whether or not erections and ejaculation come with it.

What can be done

There are practical, physical things that can be done that don't require medical intervention. And there are medical interventions that have helped other people. I am not a doctor, so I won't be recommending anything, but I have experienced a lot of medical interventions from the partner's perspective, and I know how to make them erotic, sexy, fun and enjoyable for everybody.

How I approach it

I start by looking at what sex and pleasure actually provide for us, as humans and as individuals, and help you deconstruct the belief systems that might be triggering or creating unhelpful, iterative problems.

Often, I can help you experience orgasm in a new way, and often help you find your orgasms again: the beautiful release, the climax. I also often get to redefine what orgasm is about, and show you how to use the arousal energy in your body in new ways, like you never have before.

What changes

I have had wives and girlfriends of my clients send me thank-you notes because the change in their partners has been so dramatic. Instead of stressing about sex and sexual energy, and whether they orgasm or ejaculate, after working with me they have a new way of seeing pleasure, both their own and their partner's. They usually become much better lovers, through the sensitivity and awareness they gain.

I have also worked with clients after prostatectomy who had lost nearly all of their nerves and nearly all of their hardness, both to experience pleasure in whole new ways and to rebuild functionality. One client in particular worked with me once a month for about a year and a half, and regained near-complete functionality and about 85% hardness.

How we work together

This work can be its own session, it can be part of other sessions, or it can be a series of visits. Whatever suits you.